ANR/ABF Dating Sites - Dating Sites Reviews (2024)

The majority of woman have not logged in at all. Their profiles have been transferred over from adultbreastfeeding.us to make it seem like there are a lot of women.

They have never logged in

Bit of a crafty move to be honest

The only thing about totally free sites is the massive amount of scammers and fakes they have on them, you have the solicitations, picture collectors, spammers ETC. they are only there because it's free, so you have to walk through the weeds much more just to find someone and a lot of the free sites have a none or little oversight.

What you need is a balance where serious people are more apt to find positive results while avoiding the bull, you need a site where you can do some things for free but for those who want something more, a place where only those who are really ready and serious can find each other, my vote ANRelationships they have a good mix where those who want the free site aspect can use those areas of the site while those wanting a more unique upgraded experience and site functionality can do that where they can find those more serious minded people which eliminates a lot of the undesirable elements. also the site is highly moderated to keep out those elements.

I've not come across the "massive amount of scammers and fakes" on ABF Heaven or other free websites such as Reddit and Fetlife. This a strawman argument.

This same argument is made by those who own ANRelationships and ABFSingles, and they also push the agenda that a site with a 'premium' membership will attract 'serious' people to the website.. I am yet to see this point proven. You just end up with less members overall. With the ratio of men to women already so high, why should I pay to use a website with very few active women?

This isn't coming from a point of entitlement. The point is, I am yet to see a reason to pay for a membership on websites such as ANRelationships and ABFSingles. Websites such as ABF Heaven, Fetlife, and Reddit are much much more active and are free.

Really, everyone knows that the scammers, fakes, picture collectors and solicitors and time wasters are always prevalent on the free sites it just the way it is, why because they don't have anything stopping them, they're certainly aren't going to pay to send out spam, or to scam or do solicitations or sexting all day which they can do on a free site all day everyday to their heart content, what's stopping them.

So would you rather have quality or quantity, why have a lot of *censored* members that don't enhance the site experience.

Try doing a search for people on Fetlife, or Reddit by country, city, state or province, you can't, and ABF heaven is only recently playing caught up in that department. also ABF heaven has performance issue due to the low quality of the Wordpress theme I mean let's talk about basic word press theme and server it's on, they can't even send out notification emails when you get PMs because it bogs the site down till it's not functional so they turned it off, don't believe me read their site forum it's covered there.

Now as you said you don't see any reason to pay for a membership so how do you know how well things works on those sites that have memberships, you don't., bet you didn't know that free members on ANRelationships can use the site for free depending on who they are communicating with, there are some people who use it that way everyday with no issues. Can they use all the site functionality...No they can't but they can use it enough to contact and meet people.

People will always pay if they feel they will get a advantage, a bang for the buck so to speak, if it gives them a advantage over the masses and it cuts through kissing a lot of toads to find what they are looking for, people that are looking for someone that isn't a flyby night, someone willing to make a commitment to finding that right person, people that paid know that another person that also paid made that commitment by spending their hard earned cash. they know that person is serious, money talks loudly.

What you're paying for is eliminating the vast majority of those who aren't as serious as you are, plain and simple, as in all things in life you want a leg up over the masses you want to be with people who are willing to do the little extra just like you did to find that right person.

You're beginning to sound like the owner of ANRelationships... I wouldn't be surprised if you are. As you would know, you can only send mail to 'premium' members on ANRelationships, and vice versa. There are very few premium members. What would anyone else do? Pay for membership, or move to a website which does not require paid membership?

I have met someone from ABF Heaven, Fetlife, and Reddit and I am speaking with someone from MilkSweetMilk. I have not met anyone from ABFSingles nor ANRelationships regardless of paid membership because most of the women are inactive. ANR is already nich. The proof is here. Both women and men mostly use the free sites.

ABF Heaven has it's issues, such as downtime, layout and design. But it is the most active website at present.

I understand it costs money to host websites, but I am yet to see a website active enough to justify a paid membership.

It sort of tells you that on the ANRelationship site, you know in the Knowledge section how the site works. anyone can read that, you don't have to be the owner to know that. maybe you should go to that section of the site and read the knowledge base, also you can send messages to anyone free or VIP member on the ANRelationships site, you would know that if you spend a minute reading how the site actually works, seems your pretty clueless on how that and any paid site works.

also MILKSWEETMILK isn't free to use the site anymore.

Just because you haven't met someone doesn't mean other people haven't. and since it's obvious you never paid for a membership anywhere so you don't have a clue how things actually work as a paid member anywhere.

Really you just want something for free.

So what metrics are you using to say ABF heaven is the most active website, by the number of deadbeat users?. if you using that as a metric Fetlife and Reddit have a multitude of more users.

Really in all honestly ABF heaven has much less functionality, it's just free, and has less capacity, and running out of message space

So much wrong with this post

1- MilkSweetMilk IS a paid site

2- People on the free sites complain about scammers and time wasters on those sites, take a look in the ABFheaven forums

3- People use all the different type of sites, paid and free, of course you'll get more on the free sites, because they are free, which is also why scammers and timewasters are there, don't cost them nothing to do their thing, they aren't going to pay for anything.

4- The vast majority of women that register on free sites aren't active. they just post profiles and leave. since they have no skin in the game there is no reason to stick around.

My reviews:

ABF Singles:

This website was alright a few years ago when it was one of the few ANR dating sites. However it has been very poor recently. It is not as active as before. You must also pay to comment or send messages when it was not like that before.

I find the moderation a bit hit and miss. They are really odd. They have this weird thing about "personal information" in statuses (such as usernames for chat apps). You'll find every other status has been edited by a moderator or admin. They say it's to protect your personal info, but in reality they don't want anyone to contact you without paying for membership.

What I do find rather strange is when ANRelationships first opened, the owner/Admin of ABF Singles critisized ANRelationships owner on Fetlife for offering paid memberships. (Something about how men can't run ANR/ABF websites) Yet, these were introduced very soon after onto ABF Singles.

Final verdict: This site is a relic of the past. Most have moved onto other ANR/ABF sites.

ANRelationships:

Somewhat very similar to ABF Singles interface but with more features. I find the website UI to be inconsistent. The splash page pics look very amatuer as they are all stretched out.

Much like ABF Singles most are inactive. Though you can sort members by activity unlike ABF Singles. In the past you could send a limited number of messages and comment on peoples profiles. You cannot do any of that without paying now. However you can reply to messages recieved by paying members.

The website moderation is very good, and banned profiles are displayed so you can make note of the fake pics people use for future reference.

Final verdict: Better than ABF Singles but loses points for awful cropped images and weird stock images. Inconsistent UI. Many inactive members. Very good moderation.

MilkSweetMilk:

The newcomer. Started off as completely free. There is a membership fee now. However you can send a limited number of messages for free.

The website UI is very clean and easy to use. It strips back features for a very simple website. No blogs or feeds here. Just profiles.

Quite a few active profiles. However there are many, mang inactive profiles which have obviously been taken from the old website "Adultbreastfeeding.us".

Final verdict: Worth signing up for as you can still message for free. Has spikes of activity as it's a relatively new ABF site.

ABF Heaven:

Vert different from the rest. A very basic forum style website that is 100% free to use. There is a real community aspect on here which I like. This is by far the most active ABF website right now.

Moderation is ok. It's done by a single person but I've not come across any fakes.

The bad thing is the website does not send out any email notifications so you find yourself logging in constantly which can be annoying.

My verdict: Join! It's completely free! But bear in mind you have to keep logging in to see your notifications.

After reading this review, I feel that while I may agree with some things, the sections and ABFSingles and MilkSweetMilk I just can't wrap my head around what was said about Anrelationships and ABFheaven

Site Visuals:
ABF Heaven:
ABF Heaven hasn't had a update in many years totally out of date. not much investment done since it first started for upgrades.

MilkSweetMilk
MilksweetMilk look the same internally like ABF Heaven because they were made from the same basic script, just that MilksweetMilk is a newer update of the same script.

ANRelationships:
Splash page: from what I see it's better that all the sites this person reviewed, since none of the others have one at all.

ANRelationships is also a more recent updated version of the same script and much more modified, than ABFHeaven, MilkSweetMilk. they all share the same roots in design.

ANRelationship is based on a much more newer version and with many more features.
All three sites use the same basic UI since they all have the same roots some are more updated than others and have more menu items.
All the sites are owned by different entities.

ABFheaven;
Is a totally 100% basic Wordpress site, with basic features and functionality it's based off a free Wordpress template, has zero styling and appearance, has very limited profile information of the members.

About Memberships:
One thing that ANRelationships does is let you know the last time when someone visited the site, which the others don't really do, you can't tell when the person was last onsite on the other sites so you don't know if they are active or not. with ANRelationships you can tell who's online and how long ago the person was last online.

Site Activity:
ABF heaven have a small vocal group that are very active in it's forum, basically the same people posting, and replying to each other. the other sites are much more profile driven so they don't have as active a forum if they have one at all and since they ( The other sites) have more invested in having a more engaging interactive member profile experience most people go right into interacting one on one with other members than in forums.

Site Moderation;
ABFSingles: can be spotty, but it has some.
MilkSweetMilk: I really can't tell if they have any or not
ABFHeaven: the owner does what he can and tries to stay proactive but being a free site it has many members that would of been booted or wouldn't of join the paid sites. people complain in the forums about fake and scam profiles and nuisance members.
ANRelationships: Moderated constantly, banned members profile are available to review, you'll see these same profiles on the other sites. and they will place people in site administrative time out or banned them completely if they violated site rules, the site have a three strike rule for people that violate site rules, three strikes and you're banned, and if it's a major violation, it's one and your done.

Site Cost:
ABF Singles: Paid Site
MilkSweetMilk: Paid Site
ANRelationships: Paid Site
ABFHeaven: Free site

In Conclusion:

If price point is a issue and you don't mind limited site functionality very limited member profile data and much more questionable members profiles and mediocre site visual appeal: ABFHeaven is the place for you, The site owner does what he can and tries hard but with no funding but it has to be tough for him, but since it's totally free, you got nothing to lose by joining.

If price point isn't a issue and you want much more site functionality and better more interactive member profiles and fewer questionable members profiles: the paid sites maybe more to your liking. I would join them in this order.

ANRelationships; More of a exclusive site much more site features and functionality. always having updates and features added without the limitations of the free sites.

MilkSweetMilk; has good functionality and member profiles recent updates.

ABF Singles; decent functionality and so-so members profile just a really dated site, haven't been updated in years but it still give a punch after all these years.

So it all depends on what you the consumer wants or find most appealing, take a look at them all and find one or all of them that are right for you and join them, kick the tires and light the fire.